We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with”We are always mirroring those around us. For the most part this is largely subconscious.A young child next to me on the plane home had a packet of Haribo sweets. I assessed the situation & stealing her sweets just didn’t seem possible or moral so I bought my own.I wouldn’t have without that external influence.A few months back I switched my common seeded bread for sesame seed bagels.I had shared on my Instagram story my new love for bagels. The weeks following I saw a trend in my clients nutrition choices.Bagels had become far more common.We will always be influenced by our families, friends & even those we follow on social media.
The evidence shows us that if our friends are overweight, we are more likely to be overweight.If our parents are overweight, then we are more likely to be overweight. Children copy the behaviours of their parents like a sponge so our upbringing shapes us hugely mentally & physically. The most powerful way to level up your life & results is to be around those who are better & not worse than you.The best thing I have ever done for my clients & my own development as a coach was to invest 15% of my income into courses, networking & a mentorship program. This has been non negotiable for me since 2014.Being surrounded by a network of the best & most successful online coaches & PTs around the world forced me to level up my coaching service & operate at the highest possible standard.Sharing ideas & taking the best parts of their service & plugging it into mine.Not intentionally showing a lack of respect here but for many years in my early days as a PT, I was only surrounded by extremely low level personal trainers.
Knowing my service & results were 10 fold theirs combined didn’t push me enough.I knew for me to develop, I had to engage less with these people.I would read articles & message the clients from the day before while they were playing candy crush between clients.Sometimes you have to be strong enough to cut some people from your network, spend less time around certain friends & even family who can influence your standards.This is also partly why I choose to spend quite a large chuck of my time alone.Thank you to all the amazing people in my life.And thank you to my clients who are levelling up their life being in our powerful tribe & letting me lead them to bossing life.